Perception is projection 

Here we understand that what we perceive we project out into the world.

Yes, the traits that you love and hate within another you possess within yourself. 

This video really looks at the 4 main ways in which we do this:

1. Direct – the behaviour you attract is the same as you do to others 
2. Back on self – the behaviour you attract is the same as you do to yourself 
3. Symbolic – the behaviour you attract is a symbol or similar to what you do 
4. Wound side – the behaviour you attract is something that needs to be healed